“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around- and why his parents will always wave back.”
—William D. Tammeuson
Dr. Randy Heller has received specialized training and works as a State of Florida Qualified Parenting Coordinator (PC). In this role, Randy functions as a neutral third party to facilitate respectful communication and problem-solving between parents regarding issues related to their children. As a PC, Randy may also facilitate the development, monitoring, implementation, and/or modification of a parenting plan. If an agreement cannot be reached, Dr. Heller will make recommendations to the parents and with their permission, their counsel if necessary, on the changes to the parenting plan or schedule that is recommended. As a PC, she will work with both parents, and when necessary the chid(ren) to observe their interaction patterns. She may meet with the parents or the child(ren) jointly or separately and will maintain communication amongst the parents by serving, if as a conduit for information. In this role, Randy is NOT the ally of either parent and is NOT a neutral mediator. The PC’s role is active and specifically focused on helping the parents work together for the benefit of their child(ren). As a PC, Randy will help you to resolve issues in a way that helps to promote the best interest of your child(ren) and minimize parental conflict. In this process, Randy’s fundamental aim is to minimize the conflict to which the child(ren) are exposed by continuing hostilities between parents. Randy will guide you and your ex-spouse to have a different kind of conversations about co-parenting your children than perhaps you have ever had before. In doing so, family relationships are restructured as you continue separate lives and remain “together” for the benefit of your children.
The State of Florida requires by statute that divorcing parents must develop a plan for sharing time and co-parenting their children. Given her extensive education, background, experience and training in child development, education, special needs, and family therapy, Dr. Heller will assist you as parents to design a plan that will be sustainable over time and in the best interests of your children.
A parenting plan approved by the court must, at a minimum, describe in adequate detail how the parents will share and be responsible for the daily tasks associated with the upbringing of the child; the time-sharing schedule arrangements that specify the time that the minor child will spend with each parent; a designation of who will be responsible for any and all forms of health care, school-related matters including the address to be used for school-boundary determination and registration, and other activities, as well as developing; the methods and technologies that the parents will use to communicate with the child.
In this process, Dr. Heller will work with you and as needed your team of professionals to:
• Guide parents to develop an understanding of the impact of their decisions on the children
• Identify differences in parenting styles and manage the resulting tension and disparity
• Encourage the participants to remain focused on the needs of the children
• Identify the changing developmental and emotional needs of the children
.• Develop communication, problem solving and co-parenting skills
• Identify the children’s specific risks and concerns
• Identify common parenting goals